Stop betraying yourself to keep the peace.
Learn how to say what you really mean — without guilt, conflict, or blowing up your relationships.
As men, we’re taught to be strong, dependable, and there for everyone.
No one ever taught us how to say no without feeling like a bad guy.
With EFT coaching, I help you release guilt, set clear boundaries, and speak up with calm confidence — while staying grounded, respectful, and true to yourself.
You’re Not Broken
If you say yes when you mean no, feel guilty choosing yourself, avoid conflict even when it costs you, or carry responsibility that isn’t yours — this isn’t a character flaw.
People-pleasing is a nervous-system survival response, often learned early to keep the peace, stay safe, or avoid rejection.
What was learned can be retrained — calmly and without force.
How This Work Is Different
I combine:
• EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) to calm emotional reactivity
• Nervous-system regulation so boundaries stop feeling dangerous
• Practical coaching so you can speak up in real-life situations
We don’t force confidence.
We build safety first — then skill — then self-trust.
About Vincent
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I’m Vincent Breault, an EFT practitioner and coach for men who are tired of always being “the strong one” for everyone else.
I grew up in a northern community where helping family wasn’t optional — it was survival. After my father passed away in my teens, I stepped into responsibility early and learned to put my own needs last.
That pattern followed me for years: over-working, over-giving, and saying yes while quietly burning out.
EFT helped me calm my nervous system, process grief and pressure, and set boundaries without feeling like a terrible person.
Now I help other men do the same — so you can stay kind and dependable without disappearing in your own life
Work With Me
You don’t need to fix everything at once.
You just need the right level of support.
The Self-Respect Reset (6 Sessions)
For men who feel overwhelmed and want relief, clarity, and a break from people-pleasing.
• Reduce guilt and anxiety
• Understand why saying no feels so hard
• Practice 1–2 real boundaries
• Build calm confidence step by step
A solid starting point if you’re unsure where to begin.
The Self-Respect Rebuild (10 Sessions) ⭐ Recommended
For men who are done repeating the same pattern and want lasting change.
• Deep EFT work around guilt, fear, and pressure
• Boundaries that hold under stress
• Handling pushback without shutting down or exploding
• Tools to prevent relapse
This is the best fit for long-term people-pleasing patterns.
Not sure which fits? Book a free call and we’ll decide together.
What Working Together Looks Like
Step 1 — Free 30-Minute Call
We talk about where you feel stuck and I guide you through a short EFT experience so you can feel how it calms your system.
Step 2 — 1:1 EFT Coaching Sessions
We meet online and work with real situations in your life — partners, family, kids, work, and conflict.
Step 3 — Real-Life Application
You practice new boundaries in real life. We refine what works, clear what’s stuck, and build confidence over time.
Start With the Book
Guilt Is Not a Contract is for men who want to understand why they keep betraying themselves — and how to stop.
Inside, you’ll:
• Learn why awareness alone isn’t enough
• Identify your self-betrayal pattern
• Begin rebuilding self-respect safely
Not Ready to Talk Yet?
My free 7-Day EFT & Self-Advocacy Challenge will help you notice where you say yes on autopilot, tap through guilt, and practice small real-world boundaries.
Success Stories
TESTIMONIALS
What others are saying
"My life changed "
"EFT with Vincent gave me the tools to better manage my emotions. The sessions were well structured with exercises that are extremely helpful. Vincent was not only patient but knowledgeable and professional .
- Sandra
FAQS
How can I be sure that EFT will be effective for me?
EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) has been studied for things like stress, anxiety, trauma, and emotional regulation – but what really matters is: does it work for you?
In our free 30-minute call, I don’t just explain EFT, I walk you through a short experience using a real situation from your life (guilt saying no, fear of conflict, people-pleasing with a partner, boss, or family member).
Most clients notice some shift in intensity – even a small one – during that first round. That’s your proof.
If you don’t feel any change at all or it doesn’t resonate, we simply don’t continue. There’s no pressure.
I don't have enough time to commit to this program.
I get it. I still work shifts and I know what it’s like to juggle work, family, and everyone else’s needs.
That’s why I offer flexible scheduling, including some evenings and weekends, and we focus on short, efficient sessions (usually online via Zoom / Google Meet / WhatsApp).
Between sessions, I give you simple practices you can do in a few minutes a day – often connected to situations that are already happening (a boundary you need to set, a conversation you’re dreading), not extra “homework” on top of your life.
You don’t need hours of free time. You need small, focused steps that actually reduce the stress and guilt you’re carrying.
I've tried other coaching programs before, and they didn't work.
A lot of men I work with have done coaching, courses, or even therapy before and still feel stuck.
What we do together is different in two key ways:
We work with your nervous system, not just your thoughts.
People-pleasing and trouble with boundaries aren’t just “mindset problems.” They’re tied to fear, guilt, and old experiences in your body. EFT helps reduce that emotional charge so it’s easier to actually act differently.
We focus on real situations in your life.
We don’t stay in theory. We work directly with the relationships and conversations that are hardest for you (partners, exes, kids, parents, bosses). You tap, you practice, you come back, we adjust.
The free consultation is your chance to feel this difference yourself with no obligation. If it doesn’t feel like a fit, I’ll say so, and you don’t owe me anything.
Is this only for men?
My main focus is helping men who struggle with people-pleasing, guilt, and boundaries, because that’s my own lived experience.
That said, if you resonate deeply with what I describe and you feel like this work is for you, you’re welcome here. The most important thing is that you’re willing to be honest, do the work, and respect the space we create together.
What happens in a typical session?
A session is usually 60 minutes and happens online (Zoom, Google Meet, or WhatsApp).
We typically:
Start with a quick check-in on what’s been happening since our last session
Choose one main situation or pattern to focus on (a recent conflict, a boundary you avoided, guilt you’re carrying)
Use EFT to work through the emotions, beliefs, and body reactions that come up
End with 1–2 clear, practical steps for you to try in real life before we meet again
You’re always in control. You don’t have to share every detail if you’re not ready – we can still work effectively with what you are comfortable sharing.
How many sessions will I need?
It depends on how deep the patterns are and what you want to change.
Some men feel noticeable relief after just a few sessions focused on a specific situation. Others choose to work together for a few months while they untangle long-standing patterns in multiple areas of life (family, relationships, work).
We’ll talk about this on your free call and decide together what makes sense. There is no long-term contract required just to get started.
